Yes, marriage and dating. If' you've ever met me, you'll know that I'm quite silly and lively, capricious in my adventures and at times boisterous. However, as a child I was quite the opposite. I was what every parent hoped for with the expression "seen and not heard", with my nose either buried in a book in the company of adults or choosing my company carefully within my own age demographic, often finding their personalities base and their vocabulary far behind my own. That was grade school.
I was, and still am, ruled by the same brain that categorizes love and romance as a silly and useless waste of time. I suppose my life was so fulfilled with other engagements like the ingestion of knowledge and its application as well as enriching my life with exposure to music and the arts, that such advances were trivial in nature.
What my parents had couldn't be love, it was practical, functional and certainly far removed from what the vapid chickflick stars purported. And their male counterparts? Promising unrealistic affection for these hyper-sexualized archetypes? Me, the bookworm? Not a chance. We need practical, solid, applicable facts and knowledge, none of these feelings and B.S.
I progressed into middle school and the same situation followed: most girls were catty and annoying, and the boys, well they had some growing and maturing to do. Go learn something and then we'll talk. Again, I relied on my literary and music friends like Louisa May Alcott and Mozart to sustain me. Then a series of events led me to transfer to an all-girls school for 8th grade, where I'd spend my next 5 years of education.
New school, new classes, another year passed and I learned nothing. So not only was I at a new school, but I was also bored out of my mind.
But that's beside the point. And high school passed languidly and then college. I remember when I realized that I'd live down the hall from boys, they'd be in my classes, bothering my learning process. And to top it off, they were from public school. I thought I was going to die. But then I realized something, in the 5 years that had passed, males had become somewhat less impish. Some, if not most, had interesting things to say.
And they were everywhere.
Yes, everywhere. With so many to choose from, my mind was in a haze. Wow, I suppose I do see the purpose of this dating thing, I suppose. Tall ones, skinny ones, fat ones, short ones and from all over the world. I was distracted with how great they smelled and their large intelligent eyes that were alert with activity in front of active brains.
So this is the part in the story where I tell you I start dating, which did happen. I did acquire one said boy species to fawn over, if you can so associate it and that ran a 5 week course 3 years ago. I find myself so engrossed in my own life that dating, even friendship, seems to be an insurmountable task.
And then 5 months ago I found the perfect guy.
And then he graduated and now lives in the Northeast.
I suppose I'm back to square one? We'll see. Dating, marrying and settling down is just odd I suppose, another activity to add to the list of life goals, after I start my own company.